Do you have a girlfriend that is always single? You know the type of woman that is smart, witty, moderately successful, and beautiful on the outside, out going when it comes to her friends and family, almost always meets the finest guy in the room. She meets the doctors, executives, athletes,lawyers, and the smartest guy in the class room… Yeah…that one! Why can’t she EVER keep a man? No, No wait, I mean why is it the guy is never good enough forher to date long term, or build a relationship with. Let me further describe her, she’s the one who no matter how good looking the guy is, no matter how nice, considerate, smart, affectionate, loving, sweet, thoughtful or good lover he may be…he’s just ‘not right’ for her. Wonder why?

It’s all because of Cinderella. Most young girls are fed the dream of the ‘Knight in shining armor’…the great hopes of ‘Prince Charming' coming along and swooping her off of her feet to buy her the big house with the white picket fence, the nice cars, fancy clothes and lavish jewelry. That fantasy is then carried over to her teenage years and from there it transfers well into her adult life. However, by the time she is a full grown woman in her 30s -40s the Cinderella story premise is underlying but, the ‘Prince Charming’ now becomes an athlete, rapper, executive, doctor, or lawyer...in other words a man with money…lots of it.

This type of man becomes her only focus. He is her version of the ‘Knight in shining armor’ only because of the potential materialistic possibilities he can bring into her life. She now becomes cemented in a perpetual “Male Shopping” cycle. Much like the “Female Shopping” cycle most men are constantly in because they are looking for the unreal video girl on T.V. or the airbrushed model in the magazines (But that’s an entirely different posting).  Your girlfriend however, doesn’t really think about the intangible value she could potentially bring into any good mans life. Mainly because she only knows the fantasy, she doesn’t know her worth. She hasn’t found it. She doesn’t know where to find her worth. She’s looking for ‘Prince Charming’ to show and tell her what she is worth based on HIS monetary and material value.

Now ladies I understand that there are some of you that do not have this dilemma.  Many of you have yourself together and do not buy into the Cinderella fantasy (I addressed you in a previous posting). You simply haven’t met the Right One...yet. Keep doing what you’ve been doing. He’s coming!

I simply want to shed some light on the fact that  so much of some women’s lives is wasted looking for ‘Prince Charming’ for all ofthe superficial reasons, so much that she often always over looks the Good Man that is right in front of her. The Good Man who is hard working and grounded in mind and spirit. He knows how to love and receive love. Yes, the “blue collar” man with a good paying job, benefits, and has ambitions for success and prosperity for him and his family. The man that opened the door for her at Starbucks, or let her go ahead of him in the grocery line. That guy! The ordinary guy!

Please note, I am not saying that a Good Man has to be a "blue collar guy", or a man of some prestigious stature. I’m merely suggesting that the eyes must open wider to see ALL respective prospects. Where are these men you may ask? They are all around. I will give you a hint…they are not at the club, house parties, the bar, juke joint, or “champagne room” private parties. Your girlfriend can see him very clearly once she awakes from the dream and recognizes her OWN value.

Share this message with her.

Peace is love, love is infinite...

Shelby

Relationship Coach