Sometimes men make mistakes. I mean it really truly is a mistake.  Often men become disoriented with their thinking process regarding women and relationships. Often it’s not the reality that the grass is NOT greener, but it’s the fantasy that the grass IS greener.  Most married men will think long and hard before crossing the line to see if Ms. Jones has better fertilizer on her lawn then his own. It may not sound good or feel good to hear this but it’s true. However,this doesn’t mean that he will act on it. In fact, about 66% of black men choose not to step out on their women because of fear or good ol' fashion true love. I would imagine that it’s most likely because he realizes what he has with his wife and how much she means to him. Most men today are trying to hold on to their women for the rest of their lives.

For the other estimated 56% of men that step out of bounds for one reason or another, it puts a woman in a very difficult position…to forgive or not forgive. That’s a tough question to answer and like most cases there are a ton of variables that must be taken into account to determine forgiveness...or not.  However, I will share these thoughts with you; to give a man a second chance is like giving life to someone (ONLY if the of the relationship is a healthy one). If you know his heart, and you know he loves you and you love him, YOU know if HE is worth forgiving. And should you choose to forgive, it is imperative that you understand why you are forgiving him. Otherwise, it just makes for a bitter and prolonged inevitable departure.

The key to forgiving your man and staying together is to know who you are as a woman and trusting your instinct, your natural feelings. You have to really be strong in what you stand for and what you want to represent.  Just as importantly, you must truly know and understand who your man really is, and not see him as whom YOU want him to be. Remember, He is who he is. Do not try to change him. If you feel you have to change him then move on, because he is not the Right one for you.